It’s my most recent pet peeve. I notice more and more how people will use this one particular excuse to wipe away any neglect or wrong doing. It’s the “go to” excuse that relieves them of all responsibilities.
“I’ve been busy”.
Listen, I don’t know about you, but I’m not curing cancer here. Yeah, there are moments in my days where I become busy. Some days it’s for just a few minutes at a time, other days it might be something that keeps me occupied for several hours. I recognize, though, that I can’t pinpoint a time in my life where I was “too busy” to tend to my life. Now, I will admit, there are times I can pinpoint where I allow life to pass by, I allow things to become neglected. I’m not too busy for them. I just don’t manage my time properly.
I read an article by Corbett Barr which touches on the subject of how we use our time. He puts it simply; we don’t find time, we decide how to use the time we already have. Everyone wakes up with the whole day ahead of them (except those who sleep their lives away, but that would be an entirely different blog post). When I wake up on a Monday, for instance, I know that I have a certain amount of time to get myself together so I can leave for work. I decide whether I want to a) get up, take a shower, fix my hair, put my face on, get dressed, walk the dogs, and get in the car or b) choose to skip one or more of those tasks because I either want to sleep in some more, or I have something else I need to do. I choose. I line up all of my rituals, and choose to either stick with it or make the necessary adjustments so I can do something else instead, or squeeze another important task in.
Life happens. Work gets out of control. You get a new job. You move into a new house, or to a new state, or new country. You have kids. You take on new projects. Then, you look up and realize that a whole bunch of time passed by and you’ve just lost track of it all. So then, when you get called out by friends and family for being absent, what do you say?
“I’ve been busy”.
Now, I’d have to say, what I hear when you say that is “I reviewed my day’s plans, and you weren’t important enough to incorporate into those plans.” And hey, that’s ok. I don’t need to be incorporated into your plans. I would just prefer you didn’t use the fallback excuse on me because it means about the same to me.
Remember why the people in your life are there. Make sure you don’t take them for granted. Make sure you don’t put them off until next week. Next week often turns into next month.